what happens when you have your own kids?
do you really have to be mom all the time? yesterday evening, after having walked the entire day, i wanted nothing more than to come home and have my mother there to say "meisa, go take a little nap. i'll get dinner ready and wake you up when it's done"
of course she wasn't there, and neither was dinner. i actually opted to cook something, even through my exhaustion, but i would have been content with cereal, or even nothing. but when you have kids, you can't just not eat. you can't just say, "have some honey smacks kids, while i lay on the couch and ignore you." you have to suck it up be that same mother that i was longing for yesterday, no matter how tired you are.
hmmmm...there could be a solution to all this. have my mother move in when i want to have kids, and then she could take care of me and them. i like it!
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wow. so i ponder this one all the time. for someone who doesn't want kids for at least 5 years, and isn't even contemplating marriage right now, i think about kids all the freaking time.
i dunno why, exactly... but i constantly find myself doing mental exercises in which i insert kids into whatever scenario i'm in and then i try to imagine if/how it would work. i pretty much routinely find that i would, on the whole, be exhausted, sick, frustrated, and deprived of fun.
and that's when i pray to God that what everyone says about parenting is true--you know, all that about how you're somehow divinely endowed with magical energy you never had, about how seeing your kids and being with them makes you happy and it's its own reward, etc. if all that is not true, i'm gonna be a really horrific parent and the next generation is doomed. so here's to hoping it is. please God, let it all be true.
Posted by: nas | April 12, 2005 07:15 PM
i'm gonna try the whole parenting thing with a dog first. i'll let you know how it goes. (hey, if i screw up on this one, at least we know he won't grow up to be a serial killer.)
Posted by: cynthia | April 13, 2005 07:26 AM