delara, interrupted

and thank, moj! sometimes i wish i had fewer heartstrings to contend with. i'm such a hedgehog sometimes - very soft underneath but boy watch out for the spiky spikes on my back if i roll into a ball!! :)

true dat, arya joon. and no, you haven't offended me at all!! :) love love. but you make a great point - and according to "The Four Agreements" it is completely about them. and i know that. but it's been a trend lately with one friend of mine, and actually it makes me feel really sad because i just don't think she realizes how her comments (to everyone and not just me, interestingly) come off. but i've also decided that if i'm going to blog about it, i'm going to address it with her directly. 'cause i know there's love there in the friendship - she's just unaware of the effects of her actions and words. and it's all good - it's just a phase she's going through.

I wouldn't call you a whiner. I'd call you a human with many heartstrings!

sheeh. i will admit that i was a teeny, weeny bit afraid of your earlier post. the first thoughts through my head were, "O my God, have I done anything to offend her? Yikes, I hope not. But it is entirely possible. Worse yet, what if I do something and she doesn't tell me. I have to be careful what I say." but then the next few thoughts were, "Comeon, this girl has known me my whole life. She knows I love her. She certainly would tell me if I ever did something. She would call me on it. I know it." You are an incredibly in-tune person and know how to navigate the not-hurt-people's-feelings terrain very well. Some of us do not. I hurt someone's feelings so badly that a very strong bond got destroyed. I didn't even know that I had done anything wrong and that, to my friend, was the icing on the cake. If I hurt her so badly and didn't even know it, how could I possibly care for her? What might seem like a spiteful thing clothed in humor might be more about the other person and less about you. Not everyone is as thoughtful of people's feelings as you are. You are one of the most thoughtful people I know. Because of that, you might not realize that other people don't necessarily mean it the way you take it. Does that make sense? Usually when people say something not so nice, it is about them and their insecurities and not really about you.